Summer vacation is quickly approaching and if you're going through a divorce and have kids, this summer will be different than any other you have known. The summer family traditions that the family has become accustomed to will no longer be a thing – or will they? Here, you'll find a few tips to help your family get through the first summer as a family divided in two.
If you've managed to maintain a civil and relatively peaceful relationship with your soon-to-be former spouse, consider going on at least one more family vacation together. This vacation will give the kids a sense of normalcy so they can actually enjoy their time. The only way this will be beneficial to anyone is if you and your spouse can keep things on the happier side of the spectrum. If you have any doubt that you'll be able to keep the peace during the entire trip, don't do it!
Split Vacation Time
OK, so you're not best of friends with your soon-to-be former spouse, but you're not mortal enemies either – why not split vacation time? Splitting vacation time in this sense means choosing one destination for however long and having one parent go for the first half, spend a single day all together and the end of the vacation is spent with the other parent. This way, the kids get to explore everything that they love with both parents – one parent won't be left hearing about all of the fun that was had while the other was left behind.
Note: This is a great way to get a bit of "me-time" for both parents – which is probably very needed at this point in time.
Make it Legal
Whatever your family decides to do with this new kind of summer vacation, you should make an appointment with your divorce attorney to have a document written up to show the agreement. This will protect you, your kids and your spouse in the event that people's feelings could change between now and then. The legal document will ensure that you get the time that you deserve with your kids this summer no matter what your spouse has going on in his or her life. Speak with a divorce attorney like those at Kelm & Reuter, P.A. for more information.
This will be a different kind of summer vacation, but it doesn't have to be a bad thing. Talk with the family and find out what the kids and your soon-to-be former spouse will want to do this year.